Who am I?


Who am I?? This is a question all of us ask ourselves at one point or another. Often times we ask it more than once throughout our lives. You find yourself standing in front a mirror either before the day begins, or right as it ends and you ask yourself “Who am I?” Can you recall asking yourself this question? Perhaps you even turn to your partner and pose the question to them, curious of what they might say. Are you a mother? A daughter? A father? A husband, or a wife? A baker? Or even a candlestick maker?? Who are you? If were sitting waiting for a train, or a plane and someone asked you that, how would you respond? I’ve found myself thinking about that very thought, what would I say about myself? I started pondering this a few weeks ago when I had to take a flight out of town and I was observing a mother with her small child walking around the terminal. As I watched her follow after her young daughter of 18months (I asked her age) I thought to myself

I started pondering this a few weeks ago when I had to take a flight out of town, and I was observing a mother with her small child walking around the terminal. As I watched her follow after her young daughter of 18months (I asked her age) I thought to myself. Anyone who looks at this woman knows she’s a mother, and they will glean that her child is the light of life. She would do anything for that little girl who is striding ahead of her. But what else does anyone know about her?  For that matter, what would anyone deduce about me? I’m alone, all I have with me is a small bag, a cup of coffee and my nose stuck in a book. 

Now, I am not one to care what others think about me. I know that I have a strong personality, and I am not everyone’s cup of tea. Still, I pondered, would anyone look at me and know that I am a mother of a small child? Would they be able to tell that while I am enjoying this moment of quiet and peace, inside, I am missing him terribly?

It made me think… How would I define who I am? How do YOU define yourself? When we meet strangers we all have a spiel that we give about ourselves, what we do for work, our pets etc. But what would I say to a total stranger that would sum me up, also while being brief?

Here is what I came up with….

My name is Carmela. I am an author and illustrator of children’s books, that I hope will both entertain and enlighten children. I’m also a professional photographer of 10years, and I love to capture city life photography. I’m religious, I am very active in my religion. I feel that God and family are the two most important things in life. I’m a mother to a beautiful hamalicious 15-month-old boy (like my word to describe my little camera ham. Hamalicious, my pal Irma came up with that one!). I am the wife to my best friend who has always supported me and encouraged me even when I had no clue what I was doing. I try to enjoy the little things in life, that’s what I find brings the most pleasure. Oh, and I have four cats!! Yes, four cats…

So there you have it, me in a nutshell. What about you? Who are YOU?

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8 thoughts on “Who am I?

  • Tracy Bryan

    I loved this post Carmy! Simple, yet there are so many words of wisdom. That feeling of being attached to your kids (even when you’re apart) never goes away either. Mine are young adults and I still worry about them getting around the airport safely! Who am I? A very lucky person to be Facebook friends with someone who’s enjoying every moment watching their little one grow up. See, I get to do it all over again (when I remember my kid’s moments) thanks to you!

    • Carmela Dutra Post author

      Aww, Tracy! You made me blush! I’m glad that my little blog posts can bring to mind wonderful memories of your children when they were younger. I would love to hear some of those comments.

      Have a great week!

  • Rosie Russell

    Carmela, loved your post today.

    I have also thought about this many times. None of us really know who people are, what they do, their thoughts, etc.
    I think airports are where we feel this the most. We see people traveling all over the world and we have no idea what they may be going through. Someday, if I ever get to visit with you in person, and I hope I do, I have some interesting “airports stories” to tell you. 🙂

    Who am I? I am a mother, sister, aunt, friend, author, illustrator, and was a dressmaker, at one time. I wanted to be a candlestick, but here came our three kittens, so that was out. (As you know how they get into everything.)

    Family and friends mean the world to me and I’m so grateful for each and everyone of them!!

    Thanks for the great post today!
    Have a wonderful day!

    • Carmela Dutra Post author

      Great to see you here again Rosie.

      I agree with you. Airports do have a way of making us more aware of the people around us. We become more observant of individuals, and start to speculate things. Purposing what their trade is. Is this a trip for business, pleasure, or personal? I thoroughly enjoyed your introduction to who you are. We’ve known each other for some time, and I had no idea you were once a dressmaker. I too do hope we have the chance to visit in person with each other.

      Have a great day Rosie!

  • Andrew Jensen

    It’s early in the day for what is a profound question, but here is what my feeble mind is thinking. 🤡

    What can I say about myself that doesn’t limit what I have been, what I am, and what I possibly will be. A man, husband of an incredible woman, father of 2 wonderful men, father-in-law of 2 delightful women, grandfather of 3 1/3 of the best treasures I could ever desire. I am a brother to 5 sisters and 2 brothers. I am a work in process. I have been in pain for over 30 years and yet I find that I am still learning to live not with the pain but for a future without the pain. But even all this limits me. Ultimately I am one of Gods creations. He has allowed me to be all of the above and more.

    • Carmela Dutra Post author

      Hi Andrew,

      What a profound way to define yourself. I read that with an adamant conviction. Someone who yes is battling some issues, but is overall confident and vigorous. Ready to move forward and tackle what the day brings to his door, all the while remembering to thank God for what he has given him. Thank you for stopping by and leaving a beautiful comment.

  • Julie Gorges

    Good question! It seems we have a lot in common. First, I would identify myself as a Christian who is dedicated to God, secondly, a wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, and friend, and thirdly, a natural born-writer who has been fortunate enough to enjoy being an author, freelance writer, and blogger. Lastly, I am an adventurer, traveler, and sailor. This exercise is great for setting your priorities! And don’t you love people watching – like you at the airport – and imagining what defines that person. So much fun for writers like us!

    • Carmela Dutra Post author

      We certainly do have a lot in common don’t we Julie. I never thought of this blog post as a writing exercise, but you’re right. I do love to people watch. When my husband and I engaged in METRO witnessing in SF that was my favorite thing to do, we would talk about the individuals we saw and guessed their stories. It makes for some lively conversations, and who knows, maybe potential stories.