2016 is so last year’s news, and now it’s all about 2017!
Making New Year’s resolutions is a tradition that many like to uphold. Every year individuals pick out a few things to work on, maybe keeping the list framed by their bedside as a constant reminder. These resolutions can be anything from giving yourself more “Me Time” to starting that novel you’ve always wanted to work on.
What does the New Year mean to you? Is it a new beginning? A chance to excel? Maybe a time to meet goals that you didn’t quite reach last year. Or an opportunity to make more important goals to push yourself further—to challenge yourself to bigger and better dreams.
Do you set a resolution for yourself? Many do, and yet out of those who do set a resolution many also fail to keep it. By the time March-May rolls around most will have given up on the resolutions, or just forgotten them. In fact, one recent study showed that only eight percent of people are successful in achieving their resolutionIs. I can speak from personal experience in this area. In the past, I would refuse to make resolutions for the reason of not completing them. I felt like they were twinkling lights. A beautiful idea, but you could never hold onto them. Instead of focusing on all that I was able to accomplish over the past year I would look at my list (yes I had a real list that I would cross stuff off upon completion) and see what wasn’t accomplished. Eventually, I stopped making resolutions altogether and would instead try and better myself, my family. I would say I would like to seek to achieve these things, but I would dare not make a resolution.
The thought of writing out on paper my yearly goals became as though I was forcing myself into something, something that could not be accomplished. All of that changed last year. At the end of 2015 my son was born, and I resolved to make only one resolution. I would not allow the unknown of the future to hold me back. I commented on this in my blog from January of last year called Future Phobias.
I kept telling myself all year I would not dwell on that, I will deal with that as it comes, but not until then. I was so pleased when December rolled around, and I was able to look back over the past year and see that I kept my resolution. I not only kept it but that one resolution transferred over into all aspects of life. So while I said Goodbye to 2016, I planned to take parts of it with me. I plan to continue the resolution of not dwelling on future phobias.
I know that whether I intend to or not, I always will make resolutions. We all will, by trying to better ourselves, is in itself a resolution. We say we want to eat healthier, exercise more, spend more time in charity work. Whatever it may be, we all make resolutions. What it boils down to is how we make them. Becoming fixated on the list we set before ourselves, is where the snare is, at least in my case. So as I once did in the past, I have my little calendar of things I plan to tackle this coming year. If at the end of December I am able to have crossed all of them off, fan-diddly-tastic! If not, or well. I did my best, and that is all I can put on myself.
I mentioned earlier I planned to take part of 2016 with me of letting things go. Purging from myself of all of the “what ifs” that loom over life. “What if I don’t get this accomplished?” “What if that never pans out??” I had a gym teach who had a rule in his class of NO what if questions! Of course, I found a way around that rule, and I was later called into a meeting with my mother and told I was too smart for my own good and becoming a disruption in his class. But that is a story for another time. My point is, “what if” is simply that, a what if. It’s not a guarantee of anything. It’s just my own mind getting away from me. Wouldn’t you agree with me when I say it always seems as if there is something we could say what if about? It’s exhausting! But here is the good type of what if we can ask ourselves: What if we choose not to do it anymore? What if we choose just to let it go? Whatever is it that is holding you back from peace in 207 just let it go and stop worrying about it. What if we just stop saying what if!?
Again as I did last year, I will not think about future phobias, and just focus on the here and now. Tackle each month, and savor each day. The days pass by too quickly, and before we know it December 31st will be here, and we will be staring at a new list of resolutions to make. A friend told me last year that when you have a child, each day feels like it takes forever to end, but the years pass in the blink of an eye. I will agree with that. Some days move as slowly as molasses, but 2016 ended as soon as it started and the same will happen with 2017.
So this is my New Year’s resolution. What is yours? What are you planning to accomplish in 2017? Will you join me in letting go of future phobias? Wishing you all the best in 2017! I hope it is all you want and more!